[Note: This article assumes at least a beginner's level of understanding of EFT. If you are unfamilar with EFT, please download my short eBook, The EFT Quick Start Method. --Chip]

You Are Closer than You Think

In some recent work with clients and also for myself, I’ve come across a
shared theme of being frustrated that an issue isn’t clearing combined
with a sense of overwhelm that the issue will never change.

We are bombarded with stories of one minute miracles with EFT (which do
happen) and sometimes need a reminder that if our issues aren’t
clearing, it doesn’t mean we are doomed … we just need some perspective.

So if you are working on an issue that isn’t moving as fast as you’d
like, ask yourself a few questions.

• How committed am I to shifting this?
• How long has this been a theme in my life?
• What part of me is in charge around this issue?
• What part of me feels out of alignment around this issue?

You might notice some tension when you ask yourself these questions. To
me that’s a sign of being at war within ourselves …. different parts of
ourselves have different perspectives around the issue. We are not in
alignment. If we were, we wouldn’t have the issue.

[Note: this is very different than a trauma that we haven’t cleared yet
doing EFT. I’m talking about issues that we are actively tapping on but
not seeing complete results YET.]

Remember, we are doing the best we can and have been doing the best we
can. And if a coping strategy or orientation towards life no longer
feels helpful, that’s a great sign that we are ready to do things
differently. But, we must listen to and include all the different voices
and parts we have internalized.

So, for the issue you are exploring, consider it from all these
different perspectives:

• What does your freedom- loving teenage rebel say about this?
• What does your nurturing, loving mother-part say about this?
• What does your critical, protective, judge say about this?
• What does your vulnerable, young self say about this?
• What does your integrated, loving adult self say about this?

Allow all the parts to have their say and see if you can identify the
internal conflict.

Set-Up Phrase:

Eyebrow: I’m done.

Side of the Eye: I’m fed up.

Under the Eye: This isn’t working.

Nose: I’m tired of feeling this way.

Chin: I’ll never change.

Collarbone: There’s no hope.

Under the arm: I’ll never be different.

Head: I’ll never grow.

Eyebrow: I’ll never release this issue.

Side of the Eye: I’m doomed forever.

Under the Eye: I haven’t changed in any other areas of my life.

Nose: Why should I expect to change in this one.

Chin: It’s so important to me.

Collarbone: It’s so painful to me.

Under the arm: I’m scared.

Head: Part of me is scared.

Switching to the positive when you feel ready.

Eyebrow: What if …..

Side of the Eye: I’m closer than I think.

Under the Eye: What if this pain ….

Nose: …. is the final step before relief?

Chin: I know I’ve changed in other areas of my life.

Collarbone: If I can change and grow in those areas, I can change in
this area.

Under the arm: It is possible.

Head: I AM closer than I think.

Eyebrow: I AM closer than I think to feeling safe.

Side of the Eye: I AM closer than I think to feeling complete.

Under the Eye: I AM closer than I think to feeling sane.

Nose: I AM closer than I think to feeling relief.

Chin: I AM closer than I think to feeling joyful.

Collarbone: I AM closer than I think to feeling peaceful.

Under the arm: I AM closer than I think to feeling worthy.

Head: I AM closer than I think.