Abraham tells us if we have difficulty in a relationship, all we have to do is change our vibration and the dynamic of the relationship must change. The following case study shows just how rapidly this can occur. But first a little theory. Not much I promise.

Vibration is vibration–just that. But for the sake of understanding the dynamics of a relationship I divide vibration into two types: harmonic and sympathetic. These are my terms, so don’t bother Googling them.

Harmonic vibrations are those that are similar. In a relationship these harmonic vibrations are the ones that are all kissy face and huggy bear: love, compassion, joy of companionship, etc. You are in harmony with the other person.

On the other hand, sympathetic vibrations stem from repressed emotions. You literally attract a person to show you the emotions that are creating conflict. In other words, you will find a person who pushes your buttons. For example, if you harbor strong feelings of self-anger, you will attract people to yell at you. If you have low self-esteem, you will find people who put you down. If you have deep feelings of guilt, you will find people who will punish you.

Form this perspective it is easy to see that if you change your part of a relationship dynamic, the situation can shift dramatically. Perhaps it is easier if you imagine two puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly when you join their slot and tab. If you change the shape of either piece, the tab of one or the slot of the other, they no longer fit together.

In the following example, a woman changed the vibration of her relationship with her mother and shifted a 50-year relationship. This all occurred within the space of about an hour and a half.

The mother was a person who was constantly angry and carried a grudge against the world. She would often, for no apparent reason, call the daughter and tell her, ‘You are dead to me,’ and
hang up. Then they would not speak sometimes for 6 months to a year. The following occurred just after one such period of non-speaking. The daughter had dropped off a birthday present to the mother. The mother phoned to thank the daughter just before my session with the daughter.

They caught up on a little news and the mother found things to be proud of the daughter for. However, she also found that the daughter was over-extended and short of cash. Blame and accusations were bandied about until both sides were livid. One issue was that the mother could not make the gift she received, a DVD, work and accused the daughter of always giving her broken things. In the course of the argument, the mother offered the daughter $500 “if you promise never to talk to me like that again.” The daughter said that she would only accept the money “if you promise not to try to keep me from standing up for myself.”

It was left that the mother was probably going to bring over a check. The daughter did not know if she would accept it–as much as she needed it.

As it happened, it was now time for my session with the daughter.

Needless to say, the argument was very present when our session began, so we shifted our agenda to deal with it.

A sentinel (defensive vibration) was revealed almost immediately and we used the techniques presented previously in this blog to clear it. We dealt with holding onto hatred for the abusive mother, hatred for the living environment the daughter grew up in, and her lack of trust that the mother would not be angry.

We had just cleared the stored emotions, but not yet released the sentinel or energetic structure, when the mother arrived check in hand. The daughter set down the phone to answer the door. I could hear the conversation.

It was civil and respectful. They decided that the money would be a loan. The daughter showed the mother how to operate the DVD and the demonstration occurred without accusations.

When the daughter returned to the phone she expressed her shock at how the conversation went. It just never worked that way between them.

We finished the session by releasing the sentinel.

One last item of note. The daughter revealed to me that for the past few days she had been trying to visualize receiving $500 from an unexpected source, the exact amount of the check.

(c) 2009 Chip Engelmann

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