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As the year ends, many of us look for a transition, a closing of one chapter and the
beginning of the new. My family has a New Year's Eve ritual where each of us lists those
things we have accomplished in the past year, and what we want accomplish in the year to
come. We review the previous year's list of things we wanted to accomplish and compare it
to what actually happened.
We are often proud when our progress met or surpassed certain goals, delighted by
solutions that followed an unexpected path, or surprised to find we jumped tracks and
all goals in a certain area had changed.
Then there are the goals where nothing budged. Again.
I lump difficult-to-accomplish resolutions into six broad categories:
- Health (diet, exercise, weight control)
- Un wanted habits (smoking, drinking, binge eating, etc.)
- Relationships (personal, social, friends, etc.)
- Abundance (wealth, free time, etc.)
- Spiritual (relationship with God/Higher Self, daily prayer/meditation, etc.)
- Status (career advancement, education, recognition, etc.)
What is it about one's areas of "shortcoming?" Perhaps our identity is attached to the
character traits they represent. We may assign various levels of self-worth and shame
based upon how we live up to our ideals.
When we do this, however, we get it exactly backwards. Our self-esteem and shame are
not caused by our bad habits. Instead, our bad habits are a perfect manifestation of the
self-worth we accepted as a child.
This is good news. In order to change our lives, all we have to do is change the way
we feel about ourselves. In short, we stop looking at what is wrong with ourselves and
start seeing and focusing our attention on what is good about ourselves. This is half
the battle.
Each of us has repressed emotions that subconsciously disrupt our thoughts and
actions. I call this disruption static (like a bad radio signal). This static creates an
emotional vibration that affects our life traits (the "way we are" - the way we feel to
other people, which they respond to). Identifying and eliminating this static is the
other half of that battle and can be done with EFT.
EFT practitioners recognize that static emanates from core issues. These core issues
can range anywhere from attitudes projected upon us by our parents to traumatic events. In
a way, this system is perfect. Just as pain alerts us to the need to repair a physical
wound, the bad effects of static in our life grasp our attention so that we can identify
and heal our emotional wounds.
The keys, then, to following through on our non-budging New Year's resolutions are
to identify the core issues and use EFT to release them, and to see the good in ourselves.
This way, keeping our resolutions is much easier than when using sheer will power alone.
Actually, getting to the core issue may require the help of a skilled professional.
The mental mechanisms that repressed an emotion in the first place are still in effect,
blinding the individual to their own emotional static. In addition, once the core issue
is identified, many aspects of the issue may have to be addressed. (See Core Issues and
Aspects in my eBook, The EFT Quick-Start Method.)
Please email me for an appointment if you want to get started on your new "chapter."
May the New Year bring you all the good changes you desire.
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